i have my own sibling rivalry to deal with during this holiday season and lately i've heard stories of mothers kicking their sons out of the house during the holidays and even families not letting their kids come home for the holidays based on their life's choices. yeah those latter situations make my issue look almost like nothing.
just something that crossed my mind while i was looking through my subscriptions of blogs:
i'm still not over how someone can really blame their sibling rivalry on me as if i told either of them that they can't talk to each other or not see the other person just because i have a closer relationship of the other. also the intervention of other family members thinking that if they get involved (probably just to get some attention, because they aren't involved in any way or form to start with) thinking that if they stop me from hurting the family, then they can be a hero.
first of all, there lies no proof or truth in how i'm hurting the family. i would love to hear one.
second of all, getting blamed for something that i didn't do is the stupidest reason to not treat a sibling like you should.
you hate your sibling... that's your choice. i didn't tell you to nor have i told your sibling to do anything to you to make you hate them. all that was done to you was listening and taking in all that you had to say. you have your autonomy and we listened. understand that others' have their right to autonomy as well--for being someone who works in the medical field, this really should have come as second nature for you--i really hope that you're not lacking any biomedical ethics while working in the field.
having that awkward christmas or holiday dinner will be all on how YOU choose to react to the other person and around the parents. please leave me out of it as if i planned to ruin your holiday season as well; as if i really sit down everyday and make sure that your life is ruined for as long as i'm close with your sibling.
i don't have the heart to ruin anybody's holiday celebration but apparently you do if you're willing to not suck up your attitude and bring attention to yourself and your uncontrollable temper towards a situation that's not only hurting your facades but your family's as well.
at least in my family, if one member does something out of control, it's an open invitation for others to perceive the family as unstable and perhaps (if it's the kid) that their parents didn't raise them well enough or (if it's the parent) the family probably has a lot of issues. i'm not suggesting anything towards your parents because they're highly respectable people regardless of how i think you're acting right now.
but a message to you and others out there like myself who are dealing with sibling rivalries during the holidays:
suck it up and stop ruining it for everyone else who's not directly involved with your hate for one another. for once let's not draw the attention on your feelings and make sure that everyone's day has been going smoothly and relaxing enough to really enjoy the gifts that they're getting.
if this is one of the only times of the year where the family is together, don't make it a bad memory cuz what if it ends up being your LAST moment together? i may be considered in your eyes to be the reason why you don't get along with your sibling but at least i won't be the one there at the party intentionally spreading awkward tension and ruining the christmas or holiday moment, that's all YOUR doing cuz you CHOSE to. so think before you act just.
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